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Suggested Resources

There are countless books and websites with information on divorce and related issues. Their quality and usefulness varies widely. Use discretion before assuming that information you found in a popular book on divorce, or on the web, is correct, much less helpful. In creating the following list, we have focused on resources which take a balanced approach to divorce, encourage couples to resolve their differences with their dignity and integrity intact, and place their children’s interests ahead of their own. Avoid web sites or books which promote conflict, encourage battle, or have a personal or political ax to grind. Divorce is a complicated issue, and few families’ problems are resolved by simplistic, one-dimensional answers. Here are a few of the best.

Books

How to Avoid the Divorce from Hell (And Dance Together at Your Daughter’s Wedding)
Second edition – 2006 by M. Sue Talia, Nexus Publishing Company

We’re Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents’ Divorce
Constance Ahrons (2004) Harper Collins

Families Apart: Ten Keys to Successful Co-Parenting
Melinda Blau (1993) Putnam

Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your Life
Sam Marguilies (1992) Simon & Schuster

Men on Divorce: Conversations with Ex-Husbands
Ellie Wymard (1994) Hay House

Parents Are Forever
Shirley Thomas, (1997) Springboard Publications (see online classes below)

Putting Kids First
Michael Oddenino (1995) Family Connections Publications

The Good Divorce
Constance Ahrons, (1994) Harper Collins

Between Love & Hate: A Guide to Civilized Divorce
L. Gold (1992) Plenum Press

Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life
Abigail Trafford (1992) Harper

Divorced But Still My Parents
Shirley Thomas (1998) Springboard Publications

Ex-Etiquette for Paremts by Blackstone-Ford and Jupe (2004) Chicago Review Press

For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered by Mavis Heatherington (2002) Norton

A Client’s Guide to Limited Legal Services
M. Sue Talia (First Edition 1997, Second Edition due out soon) Nexus Publishing Company

How to Survive the Loss of a Love
Melba Colgrove, et al, (1991) Prelude Press

Life After Divorce
Sharon Wegsheider-Cruse (1994) Health Communications, Inc.

Joint Custody with a Jerk
Ross and Corcoran (1996) St. Martin’s Press

Mom’s House, Dad’s House
I. Ricci (1980) Collier Books

My Kids Don’t Live With Me Anymore
Doreen Virtue (1999) Comp-Care Publishers

Online Resources

Parents Forever Online Classes provide inexpensive classes on the impact of divorce on children (4 hours) and the impact of divorce on adults (2 hours) and are available at: www.familymattersus.com

Divorce Information located at www.divorceinfo.com (This is the best overall divorce information website.)

Up To Parents located at www.uptoparents.org (This is a great interactive resource for working out joint goals for your kids.)

Your Social Worker at www.yoursocialworker.com (Common sense articles about many divorce issues)

Bonus Families at www.bonusfamilies.com (Lots of useful information for step parents and integrating families.)

Our Family Wizard at www.ourfamilywizard.com (This is a terrific resource for coordinating schedules for kids.)